Being a Mom is hard and can cause a Mom to become Desperate.
I never had any idea that would be the case. We lost our first baby and our second baby sent me to my bed on bed rest at 28 weeks. When he was born, I was ecstatic and thought “Yes, NOW I am a Mommy and I can enjoy this sweet little bundle God has blessed me with.”
When I came home from the hospital, we spent the first few days in newborn bliss. I had NO idea that the pain meds I was taking (due to my c-section) were also being passed along to my baby. Call me naive, but I believed what was said or rather, didn’t read the fine print. It was ‘safe’ by medical standards, but still being passed to him. This became very apparent after I no longer took them.
Reality hit when the screaming fits from colic and the constant cleaning up from his reflux – ravaged this Mama from sun up to, well, sun -up!
Wrong expectations produce anger and depression Pg 46
For 6 months he screamed, cried and well…puked. I became desperate and had no idea. I didn’t realize it until I was out shopping for groceries and passed a Mom who was obviously in her final days of pregnancy. When I saw her, I started crying. I wondered “Does she know and if she does, why is she smiling that way?”
That sweet bundle I loved was quickly followed by two siblings. Before I knew it, I had a 4 year old, 3 year old and a newborn. And I was Desperate.
Once you start going down that road of feeling invisible and thinking that God doesn’t care, the natural consequence is despair-the dark hole where faith cannot exist. Pg 62
I had some friends and no family close by. I quit my corporate job and became a full time Mommy. My friends at work had little time and I had not really had a chance to plug in with at home Moms. They already had their circles – and I was trying to figure out where I belonged. It was hard- having worked and then quit. I didn’t really seem to fit.
Living by performance always kills our souls because none of us are perfect mothers, and we will fail in some areas. Pg 88
It was about then that God put it on my heart to find someone to mentor me. I didn’t really know where to look or how to ask. I just knew there was something to the Titus 2 words. I knew I needed someone to train me and teach me. My Mom was never home, as she was the main supporter for our home. So, I began searching, seeking and looking. Eventually, I found a few women who were talented in different areas. And they have been speaking into my life.
When a mom complains and fusses as a regular way of life, it will inevitably go into the hearts of her children with great force. Pg 108
BUT, it still wasn’t quite what i wanted.
What I wanted and still desire is what Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson have created in Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe
If you love well, you will influence your children, and your love will cover over many inadequacies. Pg 122
That is what is missing in our culture and in our churches. We have several generations of people now who have not been trained to be parents. It doesn’t have to stay this way. This book – Desperate is a call to action. It is time for Moms to stand up, brush off the labels society has placed on Motherhood – as being less than, etc… and begin to Heal and take charge of our souls and those that belong to our children.
We can not do this alone.
Start with the book. Grab your pen, pencil, highlighter and a computer or smart phone. Each chapter ends with scripture to ponder, topics to journal and a video to watch.
The ability to last in motherhood requires giving up expectations for our own lives, deciding that sacrificing our desires and wants for the sake of our family is our gift of worship to our heavenly Father. Pg 122
Be prepared to cry – so grab a box of tissues, let your hair down and allow yourself to be loved on. You are loved, Sweet Momma. You hold the future of the world in your arms. It’s a task too big to accomplish alone. Sally and Sarah Mae will gently guide you to the cross and open your heart- encouraging you to find a mentor or become a mentor. This journey was not meant to be walked alone.
When we die to ourselves and our expectations, a lot of the desperate feelings leave because we are no longer seeking to fulfill our own needs and expectations as the ultimate good in our lives. Pg 122
And when you buy the book, come back and let me know your thoughts. Me, I’m running out now. Time is up here on the computer for the day. It’s time to relish in the sweet hugs, kisses and even the messy moments with these hearts in my home…..
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