Over the past few years, I have had a lot of conversations about homeschooling with other people. Recently, those conversations have included disciplining my children. Most of the discussions have been wonderful opportunities to share the beauty about walking through the days of learning with my children.
The most recent one occurred while we were checking out of a hotel. The nice man who helped us take our luggage to our car began asking me about homeschooling. As we were walking down the hallway, leaving our room – he said “surely, you don’t teach them grammar, english or math since you aren’t qualified.” Admittedly, this was the first time someone really said that ‘out loud’ to me. It took me a moment to really recover from his words. I silently prayed for kind and loving words to share with him. After all, I know he didn’t mean harm by his words. He simply doesn’t understand the truth about homeschooling.
So, I began sharing with him the historical aspects of many men in our nation who were homeschooled and the current data on homeschool children’s test scores. No matter what I said, he did not hear what I said. When I realized the conversation was going to be very one-sided – I simply thanked him for asking and explained I saw that we were going to disagree on the topic and that was totally ok – and one of the beauties of living in America. We can have civil discussions on topics we don’t agree on without causing any harm. At that, we changed the topic to the city we were in and local attractions. And then, we got in our car and left.
Now, I know many people may have stood there and given more facts, gone into a deeper conversation and for many – that would be fine. For me, I have found it best not to feed a fire with harsh words or conversation that may not go anywhere. Discussing homeschool with those who are against it or don’t understand it can be a futile attempt to change a mind that is not open to really understanding it.
And that’s ok.
It’s not my desire to change the world into thinking that homeschooling is the way we should educate our children. My desire is to be a an advocate for Christ in every moment I have to speak with another person. Whether the conversation is about homeschooling, recipes, the weather – it doesnt’ matter. They are all opportunities to worship God through sharing life and truth.
My prayer is that the way I handled the conversation will impact this gentleman. I pray that my lack of criticism for him and the fact that I did not become angry – allowed him an opportunity to go home and consider the ideas I gave him without growing angry.
Moms and Dads, you are qualified to teach your children. God gives you everything you need to teach them, if it is the plans He has for your life. When you read the Bible, you see that He picked people who were very unqualified for jobs He needed accomplished and HE made them qualified.
So, on those days, when someone asks – don’t become angry or critical. Don’t feel you need to justify yourself, your homeschool curriculum or even explain that you make changes when you need to. Share love and truth and keep on homeschooling!
Have you ever been asked if you were qualified to teach your children?
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