Over the past several years I have witnessed a lot of different situations arise in the Christian Homeschool community. Some of it has warmed my heart and a lot has driven me to my knees. Many of these situations have shown me why many do not want to be part of the homeschool world (even if they do homeschool) and why the world has such a bad mentality toward Christians – especially Christian Homeschoolers….and why I quit blogging.
I have remained silent on many of these things, like my friends, because I do believe in Matthew 18. Now, I still believe in that and this post is not about calling anyone out, but sharing a truth about something I know to be a fact.
In 2011, I met the Nunnery family and we became very good friends. Our friendship was a family friendship. Our families have spent a lot of time together in both of our homes, on the road and in church. Over the past 3 years, we have shared a lot of good times and a lot of difficult times.
The most difficult times have been those in which incorrect (rather false) information has been shared about them. During these difficult times, I have witnessed them share how they are not perfect, but because they don’t believe in calling others out, especially when they have not witnessed specific situations, they have no right and would actually be false witnesses (I believe there is a commandment about not being a false witness (commandment 9).
Recently, the situation with Doug Phillips has swept through the Christian and Christian communities like wildfire. Many who haven’t spoken out before are now doing so because they are being grouped with Mr. Phillips ideals – only because they may have past relationships with him. However, many who have had Mr. Phillips speak or had relationships with him have not been called out. Here is one blog that states he was to speak at a convention in 2011, one year before the only year he spoke at Teach Them Diligently in 2012 and here is another site with a person stating he was scheduled to speak this year at another convention.
Teach Them Diligently has had many other speakers they wanted who have been focused on equipping families to be disciples within their homes and educating their children. That is the focus of Teach Them Diligently – Family Discipleship – not patriarchy.
Why do I mention this? The lawsuit states in line 31: “Groups like Teach Them Diligently (operated by David Nunnery)……..continue to promote and encourage the philosophy of patriarchy…….”
That is an incorrect statement.
I am a friend of the Nunnery Family and was an employee of Teach Them Diligently. For two years, I ran the Teach Them Diligently social media and never heard any remarks or saw anything in their home that suggested a patriarchal mindset. What I witnessed was a husband and wife (the Nunnery’s) working together, praying together and identifying ways to share the gospel around the world while equipping families to disciple their children in their home. Not just homeschool families, but any family. I also witnessed a family who truly believes in loving all and opened their hearts and homes to anyone and everyone. (side note, I had to step down due to the behind the scenes bullying I was receiving from organizations outside of Teach Them Diligently and began experiencing health issues).
In addition to my own personal knowledge, Teach Them Diligently has had many female speakers – good, strong speakers on their main stage who are not part of the ‘patriarchal’ movement – IE: Heidi St. John, Jeannie Fulbright, Carol Barnier, Pam Tebow and more.
Side note: This year, several speakers and vendors could not attend Teach Them Diligently because another convention forced them to sign contracts stating they would not speak or vend at any other convention with a 100 mile radius. Several of these vendors shared this with me during the 2012 Convention season and asked me what Teach Them Diligently was going to do about it (since they were the ONLY convention with a 100 mile radius). I explained that really, Teach Them Diligently couldn’t do anything, it would be up to the vendors and speakers to identify what they wanted to do.
So, while this law suit incorrectly states that Teach Them Diligently (others are listed, but I am not speaking on behalf of any other organization) “promote and encourage the philosophy of patriarchy”, that can easily be refuted by the fact that 1. If you have attended an event, you know that the focus is on Jesus, Discipleship and the family, not on Patriarchs 2. Mr. Phillips has spoken at one of the Conventions Teach Them Diligently held 3. Mr. Phillips has indeed spoken at other conventions (multiple times) who are NOT listed in this case. You can listen to this Podcast on Homeschool Leadercast and this one on Rejoicing Daily and hear the hearts behind Teach Them Diligently and 4. Nothing written nor stated at any of the conventions or on their blog has any indication, promotion or encouragement for the philosophy of patriarchy.
I’ve been silent long enough. This week, I spoke with my husband about this and he reminded me – this is why I write. To share truth. I’ve been quiet long enough about the harsh treatment my friends have received and I want my readers to know, I do support Teach Them Diligently. I thoroughly enjoyed the event in Spartanburg and only regret I am unable to attend the National Homeschool Rally they are hosting in Washington DC.
I highly recommend attending their events this year – one in DC and one in Dallas. I promise, you will be encouraged and blessed. You will walk away knowing more about discipling your family and educating your children. We have to remember, wisdom comes from God and if we want to grow good strong Christians, we need to be equipped to do so – Teach Them Diligently will do that.
ADDED to POST:
Apparently some people find the term ‘family discipleship’ to be a term that means patriarchy – let me be very clear: I do believe in the husband being the head of the home and in submission. I do not believe in a patriarchal form that oppresses people. God is the head of our home and we worship, pray and read the Bible as a family. That is our definitely of Family Discipleship. People must be quick to listen and slow to speak – the same goes with reading. Please do not press any man made definitions into this post. Families should worship together and enjoy family discipleship. If you teach or follow a pattern opposite to the truth in the Bible and both the teacher and the follower will be held accountable for not following God. I am so thankful for people like Wycliffe and others who worked hard and gave up their lives so that we could have Bibles in our languages to read and seek God’s guidance in our lives.
-Someone who has followed and spoken against the patriarchal movement recently explained to me that the TTD Convention may have been named in this because of some of the speakers they have had and/or currently have at the TTD convention. I thought this was an interesting way of identifying who is part of the movement. There are several state conventions, churches and other organizations that have these same speakers, yet they are not mentioned.
Let’s have more grace and mercy.
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