There have been times when I have been in a sea of friends and yet I have felt alone. Have you ever been there? I have often wondered, as I have sat, giggled and laughed with others around me. Have they had that same experience of just feeling alone even though they were surrounded by people they love and who love them as well?
Recently, I sat down and really considered this feeling. I pondered it and looked around to see if I ‘thought’ anyone else (in a sea of over 100 women) may be going through this. I wanted to know because I experienced it in a room of over 450 people – with one of my dearest friends sitting next to me.
This feeling (especially when sitting next to a friend) caught me off guard and I didn’t know what to do.
However, as I sat in this room with other women, I looked around and saw that most faces had smiles. There were a few that appeared to be deep in thought. At that moment, I prayed. I prayed that God would give me the opportunity to walk up to any woman who may be experiencing that. And He did.
I had the privilege of sitting next to several women who felt alone, unloved and unwanted. My heart was devastated. I knew that feeling and I also knew that they did not need to feel that here.
That feeling – it was a lie. It was a bill of goods they were being sold by the tempter of their soul to make them feel alone and unwanted.
After talking with these women and sharing my own thoughts from the past, they began to open up. They began to smile and know that they were/are loved and should be right where they are.
As women, it is easy to look around at the perfection we think we see. We think we see beautiful lives who have never had a doubt before. We think we see people with perfect homes and friendships. We think we see a lot of things – that are just not true.
Truth is that we all have something we would prefer to hide. But in hiding, we miss the beauty of God’s grace and mercy.
Truth is that we all have a moment when we feel like we don’t belong. The truth is that we do belong exactly where God placed us in that moment.
Truth is that our homes are not perfect and neither are our children or our spouses. The truth is that is a beautiful truth because we are traveling this road with them and Jesus is the way.
WE fear an untruth – no one will like us. The truth is that everyone wants to be part of our lives – we desire community-it is how we were created.
We fail to understand that each and every woman was in that room for a reason. Each one had joys and sorrows. Every woman desired friendship – and we all go through that feeling at times.
So, what do you do when you feel alone in a sea of people?
Pray- That God will remind you of your value in Him.
Ask – Ask God to show you who you should approach and really begin a deep conversation with. Those deep conversations make a huge difference between feeling alone and knowing you are right where you are supposed to be.
Seek- Seek one person. Just one. Go to that person and begin a conversation. Ask her about how she is doing. Once you begin the conversation and she knows you truly care about her – the conversation will bloom and you will realize, you are not the only one desiring friendships that go beyond the topical conversations in a sea of people.
Smile – because you are a beautiful child created in God’s image and that woman you are talking with is so happy you approached her….and now you have the beginning of a beautiful friendship – based on true fellowship and placing your feelings aside while helping someone else!
Have you ever felt alone?
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