“I’m quitting homeschooling. We have prayed and prayed over our choices and decisions. This is best for our family. We need to begin loving one another again, but I’m afraid I will be judged.”
Those words have crossed my screen many times. The first time I read them, I was shocked. However, that shock no longer exists.
I do sit and wonder though… I wonder if I could have done something to encourage my friend(s). Did I miss a chance to encourage, love or just walk this journey that can seem lonely?
As my mind tries to unravel the words I am reading, memories of my first conversation with a mentor is awakened. “Rebecca, the world you are about to enter is unlike any you have ever been in. The Christian homeschool world can be one of the most vindictive you have ever encountered. Just remember, no one is perfect, including yourself and you’ll need to hand out grace, as well as mercy, like candy. But, don’t expect anyone to do that for you.”
While I wish I could say my mentor was wrong, I can’t. This Christian homeschool world can be one in which judgments run deep. Comparison and fear can drive families to do crazy things they would not normally do. In a ‘culture’ that desires to bring radical change, it’s still easy to fall prey to that old friend, pride. While one would think that gossip and exclusive clubs would not exist in this arena, they do. Yet, it is magnified ( due to the small community that exists in the homeschool world) and engulfs many who desire to walk a path that God created for them – especially if it looks different from what everyone else is doing.
As I think about the complexity of homeschooling, I pull myself back to reality and pray for my friend(s). I pray for words to say, to encourage, love and walk their new path with them.
No path is the same.
My heart is to help others learn to disciple their children in their own way. I long to sit with Moms and help them see their path may look different but our destination is the same and we can begin enjoying sweet fellowship here. We can teach our children diligently and find the living waters of real refreshment to help my sweet homeschool Mama friends break free from any bondage they may think they are in.
So, I’ve decided to join my friends. After many talks and prayers with my husband, I’m quitting homeschooling.
But I’m going to take my own path.
From this day forward, I will disciple my children (though some say I am not qualified because I don’t have certain initials at the end if my name), not homeschool them. From this day forward, I will do all that I can to encourage another Homeschool Mom. I will share about discipling vs teaching. I will show her where to find the true living water. I will help Moms seek the hearts of their children for the one who created them….
Together, we can encourage one another and make this journey one filled with joy and peace.
What do you think? Are you ready to stop homeschooling, too? Are you ready to join true authentic fellowship and encourage Moms on any path they are on?
I am – so I quit.
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