I am blessed to have friends who want to encourage all Moms. This is a special guest post by my friend Melissa. She has two very sweet children, a husband who believes in discipling and a heart that wants to reach out to Moms right where you are – in the midst of being a wife and a Mom. This is a special letter from her to all Moms working outside of the home.
It’s hard being a working mom, but I am blessed to work at a top-of-the-line childcare facility and take both of my young children with me. I love my job and I will work as long as I need to in order to help support my family,but it is sometimes so difficult.
As I am writing this on Saturday afternoon, clothes lay in a heap outside the laundry room in various states of clean, the dishes from this morning are still in the sink, and you cannot even see my kitchen counters under the clutter. Oh and did I mention that it looks like Toy’s R’ Us threw up in my living room?
I would have NEVER let my house look like this before having children.
I used to clean the entire house over the weekend. THE WHOLE HOUSE? The only place I vacuum regularly now, is the area where the baby rolls around in the living room, and the only time the laundry ever finds its way to our closets and drawers these days, is after my mother visits.
Vacuuming was like the icing on the cake back then.
On Saturday morning I would clean the kitchen and bathrooms while working on the laundry. Then, I would dust and vacuum before making dinner. Sunday afternoons all I had to do was enjoy my clean house after church.
I look back and cannot fathom how I accomplished so much in such a short amount of time.
How did I do it? I was able to accomplish it because I did not have little mouths to feed, little feet to wash, and little hearts to comfort. Now my life revolves around the needs of the two little lives that God has entrusted to my husband and I.
Working outside my home is a blessing. I am blessed to be able to contribute financially to my family in a way that allows me to be close to my children.I may not continue to work forever, but for now my husband and I agree that it is best for me to contribute in this manner.
As an early childhood caregiver I am able to see how stress can destroy families.
Many children do not get the best of their parents (or enough of them). I find myself falling into that trap at times. Over the course of the last month I’ve seen the fallout of not giving the best of myself to my 2 year old son: biting, hitting, temper tantrums, and so many tears. For almost two weeks straight we could not walk out the door of the school at night without at least one incident report in hand. Sometimes this is normal behavior for a two year old, but I knew there was more to our situation…
I realized in that two week span that I was spending too much time stressing out over house chores and not enough time loving on my children. My kids need me (and the physical expression of my love) much more than they need clean clothes and vacuumed floors.
Of course they need a clean home, but if I do not pick them up when they cry, hold them when they want to be held, and play when they want to play, my time cleaning is wasted.
So this week, I will get down on the unvacuumed floor to crash cars with my son. If my home is clean and my socks are in my sock drawer but I cannot sit with my son and watch him discover how to put together a puzzle, I will look back on my life as wasted. I must spend the time to exemplify my love in ways that are tangible to him. We can live without clean floors and we may be a happier family because of it.
By working at my job each day I am honoring my husband and preparing for our future. By not working at home while I’m at it… I am honoring my children.
Both of these honor the Lord.
Are you a Mom working outside of the home? If so – seek God’s wisdom in how you should run your home. Spend time with God, your husband and children.
We all need to remember, that the kitchen sink matters and cleaning is a blessing to allow children to help us in our day to day chores. Let’s not become so busy, as our children grow, that we teach them that their general nature – to desire to help is wrong.
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